that's the pitfall of chinese parents: they want to make you their ideal child. But they are asking too much here. I am what I am, and I will never change the intrisic character I was born with. I want them to know that the character is fixed since one reaches three and there is simply impossible for a introvert person to be one day reborn as an outgoing person.  Yes I can make attempts to pretend I am changed, but I can't pretend all day long. There has to be some place where i can show the true me.

Why are they asking for so much? Why can't they just accept me as who I am now instead of some imaginary ideal child they expect? Just because somebody else can swim and I can't doesn't mean that I am a loser and deserve to be scolded.