10月的时候, 由于被泳池里铺天盖地的飞速游着自由泳的老外刺激了, 声称要学自由泳, 嚷嚷了几天....

过了几天, 又开始嚷嚷要学小提琴, 在iphone上下了一堆练听和弦和音高的软件, 突然发现我真的听不出来音高啊, 特别是和弦.内牛满面了, 提琴确实比钢琴难好多.

11月份因为参加了一次欢乐的混吃及唱歌团契, 我突然对宗教历史感兴趣了, 特别是犹太教作为伊斯兰教和基督教的根源, 到底是咋个回事呢? 研究了一下某粉红论坛和metafilter的帖子后, 我深深地觉得还是佛教道教这种不排他型的好啊. 不管怎么强迫自己, 还是难以把自己代入排他型宗教教徒的内心世界. 我就是想知道他们思维咋运作的, 特别是一开始咋信上的. 其实从很多层面上, 我觉得青年时期初接触的时候我和他们都是一样好奇而已, 没过几年这方面想法差别巨大, 我怀疑是和我每过一阵就换个宗教喜欢, 过于博爱有关....

12月初的时候, 拜这贴所赐, 我突然对高级相机着迷了5天左右. 单反的重量和大小和手拖造型, 绝对不能接受. 因为如果俺真喜欢上摄影, 相机一定是随身带的, 那么重可不行. 还有就是拿着一个单反感觉有点装, 不够休闲不够潇洒, 最糟的是会让人对我照出来的效果有个过高期待. 如果拿一个和卡片差不多大小的, 显着和人民群众达成一片, 实际比拼效果比别人好, 显得我水平很高哈. 为了达到这样的效果, 我看上了micro 4/3系统里鼎鼎大名的女朋友一号(gf1), 除了轻便还很潮, kit镜头在micro 4/3系统里是很顶级的我很喜欢. 坐等它降价中, 同时修炼摄影和ps技术中...

影视娱乐方面, 俺现在彻底拜倒在mad men裤下, 迷到看完一集都要到豆瓣mad men小组发个帖讨论下, 真是看得爽歪歪啊. 幸好它一季只有13集, 要不我都钻研不过来了.

另一个就是奥斯丁fans中的每年的盛事--欣赏最新奥斯丁改编的电视剧. 今年BBC的Emma令我非常满意, 这可是我最爱的奥斯丁小说, 难得看得我坐在电脑前面眉开眼笑跟着憨Emma笑得很开心. 这剧真是赏心悦目啊, BBC制作真精良啊. That said, 我到现在还处在"神马?男主角是trainspotting的sick boy, 还是Angelina Jolie的前夫????"的震惊中....

前两天，我终于想明白了！我就是太在乎别人想法了，尤其在乎别人对我聪明程度的看法，所以非要说好多好多话显得自己见识不凡不可 (我知道某女又要说说我行为很man了）。特别对刚认识的人，我每时每刻都在想别人怎么看我，实在是太太太紧张了。

青春期的时候对外表更在意些。从前被说“内秀”我都快要被气死了，这不是明摆着说我“外不秀”嘛。

同学们，这就是一个狮子座人纠结的内心啊。Too self-conscious，too eager to prove themselves.说到底还是一个自我价值的问题，对自己的评估不应该建立在别人的评价基础上，而应该相信自己本来就有很好的品质和价值。重心不在别人想什么，而是自己想什么。

目前碰到了一点小困难, 也不是多大的事. 但是它背后有没有深刻的原因就不好说了. 这牵扯到价值观的可塑性. 而说实话我觉得让别人, 特别是一个男人改变自己, 实在太难了.不过我对此还是很有信心滴! 以后我要多读读讲谈话艺术的书, 学习一下怎么说服别人.

本周我连滚带爬把张奶奶的小团圆看完了. 这小说的述评真是铺天盖地, 我都不知看了十几篇了. 总体上我又喜欢又失望. 喜欢是因为张终于显出了一丝对人物的怜悯. 失望的是发现张也是俗人, 也会把自己代入过深不能自拔. 开头惊艳, 结尾唏嘘. 全文时空错乱, 从头到尾不停地在一根时间轴上穿梭, 有种钻进张的脑子里直接目睹她的回忆的感觉. 三段中我最爱明晰的香港部分. 童年时期极度混乱. 爱情部分使我幼小心灵受到很大惊吓, 特别是那个闪回到多年后在美国再闪回来的时候. 但是我还事不能relate.

另外我看了ted chiang的exhalation. 他越写越zen了. 这篇好是好, 但是并不太有突破性, 而且我看的时候脑子里一直在想阿西莫夫的The last question.

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Your personal brain score:

Average score for MEN who've taken this survey:

Average score for WOMEN who've taken this survey:

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Part 1

Angles

This task tested your ability to identify the angle of a line by matching it with its twin. This is a spatial task, which looks at how you picture space.
Your score: 15 out of 20
Average score for men: 15.1 out of 20
Average score for women: 13.3 out of 20

What does your result suggest?

If you scored 0 - 12: You have more of a female brain. Scientists believe that people with a female brain find it more difficult to judge the slope of a line because they're not wired for spatial tasks. In past studies, 65 per cent of people who scored in this range were women.

If you scored 13 - 17: You found this test neither hard nor easy. This suggests your brain has male and female traits when it comes to spatial ability.

If you scored 18 - 20: You have more of a male brain. On average, men outperform women in this task and those with more mathematical knowledge tend to score quite high as well. In past studies, 60 per cent of the people in this range were men.

Interestingly, men's testosterone levels fluctuate through the seasons and studies have shown that men's scores are lower in the spring, when their testosterone levels are at their lowest.

Do our cave dwelling ancestors offer us any clues about why men and women score differently on this task? Find out more.

Spot the difference

This task tested your ability to identify which objects changed position. You lost points, if you incorrectly identified objects.
Your score: 21%
Average score for men: 39%
Average score for women: 46%

What does your score suggest?

If you scored between 0 - 33%: You may have more of a male brain. Scientists say men tend to under perform in this task. The corpus callosum, the part of the brain that links the right and left hemispheres, is a fifth larger in women. This means women can process visual and other signals at the same time more easily than men. There is also a theory that oestrogen levels in women give them an added advantage in spatial memory.

If you scored between 34 - 66%: You may have a balanced female-male brain.

If you scored between 67 - 100%: Those with a female-type brain generally score in this range. Your ability to remember where objects are may serve as an advantage to you when you're trying to find your way around places. You're more capable of recalling landmarks to get from one place to another.

Find out more about our spatial abilities.

Part 2

Hands

You said your left thumb was on top when you clasped your hands together.

Right thumb on top: This suggests the left half of your brain is dominant. Many studies have tried to establish whether there is a relationship between handedness and brain dominance. Some scientists believe that if you are left brain dominant, you would be more verbal and analytical.

Left thumb on top: This suggests the right half of your brain is dominant. Some studies theorise that as a right brain dominant person, you may excel in visual, spatial and intuitive processes.

However, these theories are debatable and leave much to be said about the small percentage of people who are ambidextrous.

Find out why right-brained people may be better fighters and artists.

Part 3

Emotions and Systems

This task looked at whether you prefer to empathise or systemise.
Empathising

Your empathy score is: 10 out of 20
Average score for men: 7.9 out of 20
Average score for women: 10.6 out of 20

What does your result suggest?

Empathisers are better at accurately judging other people's emotions and responding appropriately. If you scored 15 and above, you are very empathic and would be an ideal person to comfort people in a time of crisis. Women in general are better at empathising.

Systemising

Your systemising score is: 11 out of 20
Average score for men: 12.5 out of 20
Average score for women: 8.0 out of 20

What does your result suggest?

Systemisers prefer to investigate how systems work. A system can be a road map, flat pack furniture, or a mathematical equation – anything that follows a set of rules. A score of 15 and above suggests you're good at analysing or building systems. Men in general are better at systemising.

Scientists are keen to learn more about people who score high or low on both tests. They want to find out whether or not empathising and systemising are linked. Is a possible to make yourself more empathic?

Some scientists claim that our empathy and systemising abilities can be traced all the way back to prehistoric times. Find out more.

Eyes

This task tested your ability to judge people's emotions.
Your score: 6 out of 10
Average score for men: 6.6 out of 10
Average score for women: 6.6 out of 10

What does your result suggest?

If you scored 0 - 3: Do you think you're good at judging how another person is feeling? Your score suggests this doesn't come to you quite so naturally.

If you scored 4 - 6: Your result suggests you have a balanced female-male brain and find it neither easy nor difficult to judge people's emotions.

If you scored 7 - 10: Your result suggests you are a good empathiser, sensitive to other people's emotions. Women generally fall into this category.

Professor Baron-Cohen at the University of Cambridge says that people usually perform better than they expect to on this test.

Men often think a person's eyes are sending signals of desire when that's not the case at all. Find out more.

Part 4

Fingers

We asked you to measure your ring and index fingers. Your ratios came to:
Right Hand: 0.97
Left Hand: 1

Average ratio for men: 0.982
Average ratio for women: 0.991

It's thought that your ratio is governed by the amount of testosterone you were exposed to in your mother's womb. The ratio of the length of your index finger to the length of your ring finger is set for life by as early as three months after conception. Even during puberty, when we experience intensive hormonal changes, the ratio stays the same.

Men generally have a ring finger that is longer than their index finger, which gives them a lower ratio than women, whose ring and index fingers are usually of equal length.

Studies have found that men and women with lots of brothers generally have more masculine finger ratios. Find out what other things scientists think our ratios may tell us.

Part 5

Faces

This task looked at how you rate the attractiveness of a series of faces. The images you looked at were digitally altered to create slight differences in masculinity.

Your choices suggest you prefer more masculine faces.

Highly masculinised male faces possess more extreme testosterone markers such as a long, broad and lower jaw, as well as more pronounced brow ridges and cheekbones.

Interestingly, women's preferences are said to vary across the menstrual phase. A more masculine face is preferred during the 9 days prior to ovulation, when conception is most likely.

A typical 'attractive' female face possesses features such as a shorter, narrower, lower jaw, fuller lips and larger eyes than an average face.

Are you surprised at what researchers think they can learn from your answers? Find out more.

Part 6

3D shapes

This task tested your ability to mentally rotate 3D shapes.

Your score: 11 out of 12
Average score for men: 8.2 out of 12
Average score for women: 7.1 out of 12

What does your result suggest?

If you scored 0 - 6: Do you find yourself having to physically rotate a map to point in the direction in which you're travelling? This might explain why you scored in the lower range in the 3D shapes test. Twice as many women as men score in this category. Previous studies suggest that those with a female-type brain or with an arts background fall into this range.

If you scored 7 - 9: In past studies, 50 per cent of the people who scored in this range were women and 50 per cent were men.

If you scored 10 - 12: Are you an engineer or do you have a science background? People with these skills tend to score in this range. Past studies have concluded that people in this range have a more male brain.

Nearly a third of men who took this test got full marks, whereas less than 10 per cent of women managed the same. Find out why.

Words

This task looked at your verbal fluency.

Your score: you associated 5 word(s) with grey and you named 4 word(s) that mean happy. We are assuming that all the words you entered are correct.
Average score for men: 11.4 words total
Average score for women: 12.4 words total

What does your result suggest?

If you produced 1 - 5 words: You are more of the strong, silent type with a male brain. You probably find it easier to express yourself in non-verbal ways, preferring action rather than words.

If you produced 6 - 10 words: Most people in this range have a female-type brain.

Women are said to use both sides of the brain when doing verbal tasks while men mainly use their left side. Studies have shown that girls develop vocabulary faster than boys. This difference in brain power is caused by levels of pre-natal testosterone. Find out more .

Ultimatum

This task asked you how you would divide money.

If you had to split ??50 with someone, you said you would demand ??25

So far on the Sex ID test, men have demanded 51.6% (??25.80) of the pot and women have demanded 51.0% (??25.50), on average.

What does your response suggest?

Sex differences are small in this task. Demanding less than 60% of the pot (ie ??30) is more typically female. Demanding more than 65% of the pot (ie ??32.50) is more typically male.

Scientists believe that people with lower testosterone levels tend to take fewer risks so they are probably more willing to keep less for themselves. Those with higher testosterone levels tend to drive a harder bargain and are less compromising.

Men's testosterone levels fluctuate over the seasons and are at their lowest levels during the springtime. This is said to influence their bargaining power. Find out more about the role of testosterone.

老子才22岁，爸妈就急吼吼地整天就男朋友问题刺激我。比方说讨论10年后大家都变成什么样时，动不动就假设我到了那时还没嫁出去。我爸还经常恐惧我是lesbian（囧死）。 这要是再过几年我还没找他们可如何是好啊？ 而且我明明刚分手啊，怎么就变成没人要了呢？囧囧囧囧囧囧囧。不过就算找了估计对抗还得继续下去，摘抄一下xq中的某帖：

不要以为你有BF了，你一下子就成了四好女青年了，如果你妈足够jp，还是可以天天ws你。
比如，你们的约会经历经过要随时报告，穿什么衣服，吃什么饭，说的什么话。
过年过节碰头，亲戚免不了女儿bf大比拼（以前比女儿的学习），现在比约会在什么地点，送什么东西，工作事业家庭男方父母。老人家们恨不得你今天结婚，明天生孩子。如果你家的bf尚可，那你妈面子挂得住了回去你就好过点。如果与此相反，你回去等着吧，宇宙爆发，如果你强硬点，不谈了，分手，估计她又要给你洗脑，其实他也不那么差，只是你要如何如何教育他。（看了看爸爸现在的样子，想想这个任务太难，还是算了吧！）后续还有n多……_OZ
不要以为你结婚了，你就升华了，如果你妈足够jp，还是可以天天ws你。
比如，什么时候生个孩子给她玩玩，婆婆对你好不好等……_OZ

人和人之间，当然能建立亲密的关系和感情交流，让人觉得知彼如知己。但是 客观现实跟主观的感受是不同的，对他人的内心尤其是语言以外的微妙变化和动机，终究不可能绝对清楚，尤其难以设身处地站在对方立场假想一种对他有利而对自己有害的冲突。人的第一本能，多数时候是自保，虽然未必高尚或道德，却是常见和难以抗拒的现象。我喜欢引用Miller’s Crossin里的台词： “Nobody knows anybody.  Not that well.”

这是俺一直想写的论题，人家写的已经很透彻了。

It is common issue of all the 土象星座, whether it is a taurus, a capricorn or a virgo. Usually their perfectionist nature do their good, but in emergency, their pickiness and stubbornness add to the trouble. Sure we 火象 are way too rough and simple-minded most of time, but you've got to admit that a simpleton is better than a square sometimes.