Being Boring I'll find my soul as I go home

parents

that's the pitfall of chinese parents: they want to make you their ideal child. But they are asking too much here. I am what I am, and I will never change the intrisic character I was born with. I want them to know that the character is fixed since one reaches three and there is [...]

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Facebook

Facebook. It annoys me no end. Worst of all, now I face a dilemma: I changed my relationship status from single to in a relationship two months ago. In response lots of people sent their best wishes. In spite of this we broke up in a month and a half. Should I change it back [...]

stila同学还是那么地能说

我越来越觉得, 男女的感情问题是个case-by-case problem, 每一对都不一样, 像stila那种act by design是行不通的. 但是stila同学是多么的雄辩啊, 每次我都读得快被convert了,
(男生同学读了stila的文对女生的向往破灭不要怪我, 这世上比这写文的人还实用主义的人多着呢)
单身女生手册
玩弄男人于股掌
作者的blog

如何打破坚冰捏...

话说人和人交流有时真是困难, 一方面大家都忙着, 人家没功夫理我, 另一方面我以前就发现了, tnnd有的人跟我气场不合, 每次说话我都有抡起锤头砸破他们的保护皮的冲动...可素我也没勇气make it happen. 我猜这些人喜欢渐进式的友谊吧, 俺还是先不要暴露火象的一面. 不卑不亢就行了. 啊, 好害怕这样不冷不热的淫!
另外我在研究这位同学的职场报告, 顺便也琢磨了我要往哪里方向走

心理学

心理学这玩意好神气, 我要慢慢研究. Freud同学我妈大爱, 可素从小我就讨厌他神神道道的唯性论. 还素neuroscience和developmental biology(专业人士说这个短语念"滴百")和心理学结合了之后, 近20年来的结果比较靠谱啊
wiki article on the history, disciplines and methods of psychology
overview
On Therapy:
Jun大人的强悍读书报告
A case of obsessive disorder:
又素恶人谷
Linking psychology with 滴百
额的神啊, 我也看不大懂
A case of abnormal psychology
tnnd真是雷死我了
mainstream theory of infant attachment
从自杀谈到做父母
literature review
今天看到这个(from zs), 个人感觉其实相处模式不一定一致, 但父母肯定对孩子爱人以及如何得到爱能力至关重要. 看了这段我终于明白为啥有人拿自虐/虐人当爱情了(琼瑶阿姨肯定小时候缺乏爱咔咔):
问下他小时侯家庭情况怎么样，是不是他爸妈一直对他在精神上并不怎么关心，而且还经常贬低他，是不是在6岁之前都缺乏母亲的照顾，极度没有安全感，他现在 所有对你的态度都是典型的潜意识发作，他有痛苦，很深的痛苦，是从童年开始积累的，以至于他必须将给他痛苦经历在重新复制一次，复制在你和他之间，他的部 分痛苦转移到了你身上，他才会觉得好受点。
你也是一样，能那么没原则的接受这一切，绝对不是你爱他，爱情不是这样的，你在小时侯遇到的问题也不会小，只是你的复制方式不一样而已，你们都 在重复自己小时侯的遭遇，只是对象变了而已，不信你和他仔细回想下你们小时候各自的经历，你们在现在这样的关系下的心理状态是不是和当年和某些人跟你们的 关系特别象？或者不是发生在你们自己身上，而是在2个非常亲密的大人身上？
建议看看武志宏写的心理学分析帖子，应该可以查到，你会明白很多你不明白自己为什么能接受的事情最后居然能接受，你以为那是命运，那是爱，其实那不是，那只是你的需要，你渴望的，或许有些很变态，但那是真实的，只有面对了，才能真正从各种痛苦中解脱。

gu弃坑逃亡中

gu同学申了一大帮学校,  现在把这个坑弃了跑路中

a spur which should keep me going

FOUR QUARTET by T. S. Eliot

The last stanza from the last quartet, Little Gidding

We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.
Through the unknown, unremembered gate
When the last of earth left to discover
Is that which was the beginning;
At the [...]

老套的测试

居然叫Jung Typology Test, Jung怎么可能会出这么老套的题?Your Type is INTJ

Introverted
Intuitive
Thinking
Judging

Strength of the preferences %

67
31
12
22

You are:

distinctively expressed introvert (Flora同学, 我就是内向, 你不承认也没用)
moderately expressed intuitive personality
slightly expressed thinking personality
slightly expressed judging personality

INTJ type description by D.KeirseyINTJ type description by J. Butt and M.M. Heiss
The Portrait of Mastermind RationalMasterminds will adopt ideas only if they are useful, which is [...]

Which Jane Austen Character are You?

You scored as Elinor Dashwood. As Marianne's older sister, Elinor lives at the other end of the emotional spectrum.  She rarely reveals her intense feelings and is more concerned with being honest and loyal than having what she deserves.  Even though her intentions are pure, she sets herself up for loss by constantly placing [...]